I've decided to take a less formal approach to this blog this week. I'm going to make it a bit more like what blogs were supposed to be for way back in the day, which was before my day, but lets call it a day. It'll just be a collection of things I found interesting this week. But first, some me stuff:
If you listen to the podcast you know that I talked to my biological father for the first time in 15 years. To mark the moment I recorded him on the podcast after we ate Thanksgiving dinner. I did it this way because I wanted to give us a bounded space within which to process our feelings, so that our baggage didn't crowd the entire holiday. I think it went well. He cried. I cried. I got to ask a lot of questions. Some people told me I went to easy on him, but the thing is, I know that his excuses for abandoning are flawed and I could have gone after him for it, but that wasn't really the point. I've worked through the anger and despair parts of it and now I wanted a healing. For a long time I didn't talk to my dad because I wanted to punish him, he abandoned me, so why should I reward him with a relationship now...but I changed my mind. He may not deserve a daughter, but I deserve to have a relationship with my natural father.
It did feel a little weird. Having an adoptive father that I've very loyal too, I didn't know how to talk about him to my father. I just started saying "my other dad." That seemed to work ok. I'm going back to spend Christmas with him and my other mom, so I'll keep you posted. My mom also listened to the podcast, which I wasn't expecting. I would have been more diplomatic in discussing our relationship if I'd known she was going to listen to it. She actually approved. I'll have her on soon.
In other news. I've been listening to a lot of conservative rhetoric lately. I'm less concerned with sympathizing with the "other side" than I am just entertained at listening to conservatives try to be funny. Anne Coulter can actually be funny, and Milo can too, but some of the humor labors under broad generalizations that aren't true enough to warrant a laugh. Most of Milo's jokes are about how feminists are fat lesbians, but I've worked as a model and a porn star for seven years and most of the women I work with consider themselves feminists and most of them are super hot and attracted to men, so, I just don't think the jokes are funny. Moving on. Here's fun stuff from around the web:
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